What is feminism in this modern age?

I myself am very anti feminist. I am russian by birth, live in america, married an american man, chose to be a house wife and mother. I have been raped twice in my life and did not take any legal action against it, as I decided to deal with the pain from it on my own. I believe in gender roles, and that being treated fairly is not being treated the same. Women have very different abilities than men, and that needs to be embraced, not challenged.